Hello everyone!

Welcome to the Your Best Life community!

My name is Kenya, and I look forward to connecting and sharing with you about everyday life & the situations it brings.

I am a published author, certified educator and licensed coach. The site's content addresses being a whole individual and the best version of one's self, so it's relevant and applicable to all.  Anyone can listen, and all are welcome to participate; just know, that we will often speak and address issues from the perspective of an unmarried individual.

I am doing this for a few reasons, and they are as follows:

  • I am a member of the unmarried adult population and consequently, it's from this perspective that I will connect and share.

  • There's a need for it.  Although Western culture has progressed, there definitely remains an underlying current of devaluing the unmarried.  In some instances, gender plays a role as this often applies to unmarried women more so than men.  Nevertheless, many-to-most of us can detail multiple experiences of others not only inquiring about our relationship status (I don't ask how your marriage is going, do I?), but going even further it with questions and inquiries about why the status is as it is - like it needs to be fixed or corrected.  In spite of the message from societal culture and even at times from church culture, lack of a spouse does not make us less than because no one's value is determined by their relationship or family status. My heart grieves when I see people who have accepted the lie that they need to have " a ring on it", in order to matter or have any significance because it's just not true...Let me be clear, I'm not knocking marriage, there's nothing wrong with it.  Healthy marriages are good. It's also okay to want to be married – nothing wrong with that desire. Own it...at the same time, please know that the value of you and who you are does not increase nor decrease with marriage.

  • We are relational beings.  I heard a wise man say "Everything you need is in a relationship."  We have all types of relationships:  familial, professional, personal, etc. We also have relationships with time, money, and our emotions.  What lies at the foundation of how well one relates to others is how well one accepts and relates to one's self.  This blog is designed to help us relate better to one another by improving the relationship we have with self because when all is said and done, the only person over which you have full autonomous control is you.

I believe we are better together, and there are some places and pinnacles in life we just can't reach on our own without others.    I hope that after reading this introductory blog post, you will come along for the ride and journey along with us on the path of becoming better. You have something to contribute and we'll all be better for it.

Lastly, as we all know, we may not always agree with perspectives and viewpoints mentioned.  Differing perspectives may occur and that is fine as well. Sometimes we will disagree. 

1. The Bible is the foundation upon which I build my life and is the primary source of my perspective.

2. All I bring and submit comes from a place of love; so before you throw something away, take it under consideration and treat it like a chicken sandwich; meaning, eat the meat and spit out the bones. Seek understanding in order to accept and apply what is useful for you (the meat)...and what doesn't apply (the bones), doesn't apply.